I can appreciate how betrayed you feel and how the life you had planned isnt going to happen now. He is constantly angry at me and seems to hold a grudge against me for keeping him attached to this relationship. Glad these forums are here for us all, whatever our situation. My new employer understands and have been quite helpful. I wish you so much happiness and the freedom that will come with being your true self. But I also have to be pragmatic and have been socializing and living my own way,instead of being tied to the wishes and expectations of a spouse. Second, can anyone really pretend about anything for a protracted period of time?
Be the better person,keep your dignity intact,remain friends.
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Grief and loss are some of the hardest emotions anyone has to face in a lifetime. Threads collapsed expanded unthreaded. The treatment process will be long and drawn out. Next Post By Allan. All it was was lies she spun me, and their built up resentment festered over years, because from day 1 of their relationship they have had intimacy problems. But what I've realised is that the people that do that, don't even care.
Always, this is met with shock, despair and betrayal. He needed to be safe. In fact, it blows my mind. He does not plan it, it just happens. As odd as this feels,the more you talk to others you will find it is not such an unusual situation to be in. The detailed examples, psychological theories, and therapeutic protocols in this book will be helpful to husbands, wives, and couples who seek clarity in this confusing situation and especially useful to therapists with such clients. The sense of hurt and betrayal is enormous, often leading to divorce.